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What if the greatest obstacle to your wellness isn't your diet, exercise routine, or stress management techniques, but rather the "shoulds" you've internalized throughout your life? In this illuminating conversation with author and coach Jessica Frew, we explore how reclaiming your decision-making power might be the most transformative wellness practice of all.

Jessica reveals a profound truth that many of us have never considered: from childhood, we're systematically taught not to trust ourselves. Those well-meaning reassurances of "it doesn't hurt that bad" or "you shouldn't feel that way" create a lifelong pattern of disconnection from our authentic feelings and desires. By adulthood, this conditioning runs so deep that many women reach a breaking point—exhausted from people-pleasing and following paths that never truly resonated with their souls.

Through her work and newly released book "Shove Your Shoulds," Jessica offers a framework for recognizing and releasing these internalized expectations. She explains how the simple word "should" signals judgment and conditioning, while offering practical techniques for making decisions that honor your authentic self. Her approach is particularly powerful for women navigating major life transitions—whether it's empty nesting, career changes, divorce, or simply the midlife realization that you've been living someone else's version of your life.

What makes Jessica's perspective so unique is how she connects decision-making to holistic wellness. When we make choices aligned with our true selves, we regulate our nervous systems, reduce anxiety, and build deeper connections with others. This isn't just about making better decisions—it's about reclaiming your relationship with yourself.

The conversation takes fascinating turns through identity shifts, coming out (not just in terms of sexuality, but in all the ways we hide our authentic selves), and how embracing who you truly are gives others permission to do the same. Jessica's warm, accessible approach makes these profound topics feel approachable, offering practical wisdom without judgment or pretense.

Ready to shed the "shoulds" that no longer serve you? This episode offers both the permission and the practical tools to begin that journey—one authentic decision at a time.

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